The woman behind the mother: Greer Worsley

How would you describe your children?

They’re amazing, of course! My four-year-old Lola is bright and gregarious and terribly tenacious. She doesn’t have a shy bone in her body, which I am always surprised by. The only thing my one-year-old twins have in common is their birthday. Stella is a real sweetie. She’s very self-sufficient and such a laid-back, happy little thing. Pearl needs a lot more attention and can turn on a whinge like no-one I know, but she’s just so funny. She’s like an eccentric little old lady – a real character.

Tell me 3 sources of inspiration for you

My mum. She died when Lola was only 8 months old, and while she isn’t here anymore to give me advice or encouragement, I often wonder what she’d think of this rowdy family of mine. I have the greatest respect for how she raised my sisters and I as a single, working mum in a country town.

The many wonderful women in my life, especially my two sisters and my beautiful  girlfriends. They’re an eclectic, independent, creative bunch, many who I’ve known since I was a child. They always inspire me to do better, question my own attitudes and beliefs, and look a bit deeper for the joyful and the absurd in my day.

Books, films, radio interviews, blogs. I love stories, and reading or hearing about other peoples’ stories is endless inspiration for me. Whether it sparks a creative idea or just puts my own messy day into perspective, the experiences of others, especially told well and in interesting formats, keeps it all ticking over for me.

What have you learnt about yourself since becoming a mother.

That I am quite possibly the most impatient person on the planet!

Of course,  becoming a mum has changed me in the deepest and most wonderful ways, and helped me clarify what really matters in life. Having my girls has brought out the ‘me’ in me, if that makes sense. It’s given me confidence to be myself and express myself, and I worry far less about what other people think, which is sweet relief, that’s for sure.

When your children grow up, what do you hope they admire the most about you?

I want my girls to grow up as gutsy, independent, resilient, creative women, and I’d like to think they can learn some of those qualities from me. But mostly, I hope they admire my optimism, my sense of fun and my capacity to love and nurture.

If you had a whole day to yourself – no kids, no work, no financial restraints – how would you choose to spend your time?

This one’s easy – a five-star hotel room, king-size bed, huge bath tub, room service, French champagne, a big pile of magazines and books, maybe a movie on DVD, my knitting… Wait, does it have to be just the day? I’d probably have to stay overnight too. With breakfast in bed. And a late check-out.

How do you juggle the “family, work,  self” challenge?

I’m not sure I do, really. I think because my girls are so young, it all melts together in a great tumbling mess of days.  I work from home, so I don’t get to delineate my working life by leaving the house each day in nice clothes with a nappy-free handbag, but I’ve become really good at looking after my own needs and shouting loudly for time out when it all gets too much. I think the intensity of that first year with my twins has made me appreciate every little moment I get for me, even when I’m home with them – even just enjoying a coffee or knitting a few rows while they play. And a night at the movies on my own or dinner with my husband has become a wonderful occasional luxury. I’m a firm believer that time to myself pursuing my own interests makes me a better mum.

HipMum is about being real and acknowledging that we’re not perfect (and being at peace with that). What’s your weak point?

Apart from the little patience issue mentioned above, I think my weak point is trusting my own judgement or intuition. I often agonise over whether a symptom in the babies warrants a trip to the doctor, or if something Lola has told me about her day at preschool necessitates a serious conversation with the teacher. Often I just wish someone would tell me the ‘right’ thing to do. That said, I don’t think I’ve ever made a ‘wrong’ decision with my girls and my gut feeling is often proven correct.

What is something you know for sure?

Whatever it is, it’s not that bad. And there’s nothing that can’t be made a bit better by putting on some daggy music and having a dance…

Greer Worsley is a fabulous writer, incredibly creative and a regular HipMum contributor. Follow her blog at

 

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